Last year, I had a baby when my older children were 11, 13, and 14 years old. Reactions from friends were mixed. Some were happy for me, but even more happy that it was me and not them. Some were jealous because they missed their babies. A few even wished they could have just one more.
This list of pro’s and con’s is largely for the last group.
Pro: Teenagers can be helpful. And in this case they want to help because they just love that cute little baby. They will play with her and amuse her so you can eat or take a shower.
Con: When it comes to anything outside their friends and their social media, teenagers have limited patience. They invariably hand you the baby and walk away while you’re trying to cook dinner. Or take a pee.
Pro: You get to see how your children will be as parents someday, while resting secure in the knowledge that someday is definitely a long, long, long way off. As much as they love their new sibling, they are not anxious to become responsible for dirty diapers and midnight feedings.
Con: It may have exactly the opposite effect on your teen’s friends. They’ve never been vomited on or had to bleach baby poop stains out of their clothing. They only see the smiles and the giggles.
Pro: You have built-in babysitters. If you pay them the going rate for babysitting, they won’t even complain about doing it. You’d have to pay for babysitting anyway, but by using your own teens, you never have to worry about whether or not you CAN find a babysitter, especially if you have more than one qualified sitter living in your house.
Con: Nope. No con for this one. You have built-in babysitters, something you didn’t have for your first round of children. Take full advantage.